How can i get my guy to last longer in bed?

Studies have shown that frequent masturbators actually last longer in bed due to over-stimuation of the penis. So I doubt your masturbation is causing premature ejaculation.

The best way to train yourself is to practice stopping just before orgasm when you are masturbating. That way you can learn to recognise exactly when you are about to orgasm and slow down until you relax a bit.

Aim to masturbate for 20 minutes without orgasming and see if you can do it.

Okay, what i have done is to change the environment such as a resort holiday. We actually plan for a naughty trip and we brought along some sex games and costumes etc. Personally, I think to resolve the barrier between both of you is to communicate and understanding each other needs.

when he jerks it once he is done have him keep going for 2 or more minutes it desensitizes the penis and will make him last longer

Buy a tube of teething gel for babies. Rub a little bit on your pecker-head and put on a rubber.
It works the same way Delay Creme does, only it’s not embarassing if someone sees you buying it.

I can generally make it last as long as I want. So yea, you can practice techniques for making it last. Stopping just before and restarting is usually the best way. If he’s doing this then all you gotta do is keep up the pressure, if you know what I mean.

Also I was on lexapro for a while and that did cause some problems in ….getting there…so medication can effect it.

Maybe he is more on the shy side and just not very kinky. He probably is satisfied with conventional sex and doesn’t share your desire for all the new things. Did he got into it when you got the toys and pull out the naughty nurse costume, or he did not care for it?

I had a boyfriend like that, it was just how he was, but I wasn’t as upfront with him as you were, I just waited to see if he would ever want to do something different, and he never did and with time we got boring…and we ended up becoming more friends than anything else…we ended up broking up, probably just because we had different personalities in and out of Bed.

I ended up marrying another guy a few years later, we are married for 7 years now and sex today is just as great as when we were dating. First he is into pleasuring me, loves foreplay, loves to talk about different fantasies, buy toys ( Just got a Hot G-vibe) you should try , we go on nice vacations, every now and than we go dancing, clubbing… he makes sure we don’t became just another boring couple…. But this is who he is, is his personality.

Anyways, I think you did a lot and showed him what you like and what turns you on. If he doesn;t respond after that might be that he is just more conservative in bed than you are. He may eventually come around, you never know.

A question: When you do have sex does he try to please you or he is just worried about his share? There are guys that are on the quiet side, and even know theya re not much into many things, still make sure you come before they do…If that’s your husband, than just give a little more time… If he just cares about him, is time to have a talk…

I’ve been married a few years, and contrary to what everybody says, sex does matter on a relationship.

Stop after one and one half minutes and take a short rest.Resume and take a small break everytime you feel your getting close. Trust me this works. You should last longer each time.Good Luck

Kegal Exercise for achieving long lasting and multiple orgasm

The way you can make your pelvic floor muscles stronger and more toned is by doing special exercises called kegels. Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder and bowel. If you do Kegel exercises regularly and keep your pelvic floor muscles toned you can chieve stronger erections and gain control over ejaculation. Kegel exercises mainly practicing to prevent or control urinary incontinence and prepare for childbirth.


The male and female sexual response cycles are strikingly similar. The primary difference between the two is male ejaculation. Multi-orgasmic women are able to have successive orgasms if stimulation is resumed shortly after the first orgasm because they do not ejaculate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in such rapid succession, orgasm beginning slightly before ejaculation then tapering off during ejaculation. To navigating the path to multiple orgasm is gaining the ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation. The ability to separate these events involves the pubococcygeal muscle, or pelvic floor muscle, or "PC muscle" as it’s more commonly known. You may know this muscle for its ability to stop the flow of urine in mid-stream. If stopping the flow is difficult, you have a weak PC muscle. If this is the case you will need to work on strengthening the PC muscle before you'll be able to have multiple orgasms. If you squeeze or contract the PC muscle you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn upward. 

How to do Kegel exercises

The easiest way to identify the pelvic muscles in men and women is to stop the flow of urine midstream. When you do this you are contracting your pelvic floor muscles. When you then restart the flow of urine you are releasing the pelvic floor muscles. It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. To make sure you know how to contract your pelvic floor muscles, try to stop the flow of urine while you're going to the bathroom. If you succeed, you've got the basic move. Or try another technique: Insert a finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should be able to feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor move upward. Then relax your muscles and feel your pelvic floor move down to the starting position. As your muscles become stronger and you become more experienced with the exercises this movement will be more pronounced.

But don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream. Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles. It can also lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder, which increases your risk of a urinary tract infection.

If you're having trouble finding the right muscles, don't be embarrassed to ask for help. Your doctor or other health care provider can give you important feedback so that you learn to isolate and exercise the correct muscles.

Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Then Contract your pelvic floor muscles. Hold the contraction for three seconds then relax for three seconds. Repeat 10 times.  You can repeat this exercise 3 times a day in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking e-mail or commuting to work. 

To get the maximum benefit, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles or isolating your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Also, try not to hold your breath. Just relax, breathe freely and focus on tightening the muscles around your vagina and rectum.