What is Premature Ejaculation, its causes and control methods

Premature ejaculation (PE) is a condition in which a man ejaculates earlier than he or his partner would like him to. Premature ejaculation is also known as rapid ejaculation, rapid climax, premature climax, or early ejaculation. Masters and Johnson defines PE as the condition in which a man ejaculates before his sex partner achieves orgasm, in more than fifty percent of their sexual encounters. Other sex researchers have defined premature ejaculation as occurring if the man ejaculates within two minutes of penetration; however, a survey by Alfred Kinsey in the 1950s demonstrated that three quarters of men ejaculate within two minutes of penetration in over half of their sexual encounters. Self reported surveys report up to 75% of men ejaculate within 10 minutes of penetration. Today, most sex therapists understand premature ejaculation as occurring when a lack of ejaculatory control interferes with sexual or emotional well-being in one or both partners.

Some causes for premature ejaculation (or you can't get it up) are:

• Diabetes
• Medications for heart disease
• Medications for depression
• Some medications in general
• Stress
• Being over-tired

In all of the above mentioned causes, the best thing would be to see a doctor if you are not too shy to discuss about your problem.

Most men experience premature ejaculation at least once in their lives. PE affects 25%-40% of men in the United States. Because there is great variability in both how long it takes men to ejaculate and how long both partners want sex to last, researchers have begun to form a quantitative definition of premature ejaculation. Every man is born with premature ejaculation, so having it is perfectly normal to start with. Controlling ejaculation is something you have to learn just as you had to learn to control your bladder as a child. We get taught to control our bladders but no one teaches us how to control ejaculation.

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What is Female Ejaculation

What is Female Ejaculation


Female ejaculation is a release of fluid from the external genitalia associated with sexual activity. Some say this fluid must be released under pressure, while others say it must be associated with the woman's orgasm. Whatever the definition used, female ejaculations are hard to find.


What Women Experience

There is very little research on this phenomenon. Not surprisingly, the more stringent the definition, the fewer the number of women who can be found to have experienced it. In one study, women were stimulated where the supposed G-spot is (on the vaginal wall closest to the stomach) and asked, immediately afterwards, if they experienced a spurt of fluid at orgasm. Only 6% said they did at the time. A total of 13% said they ever had. However, the existence of the G-spot itself is controversial, which consequently makes this view questionable, too.

If one loosens the definition to be a spurt of fluid at orgasm, without specifying stimulation of the alleged G-spot be involved, more women say "yes." However, these numbers may be inflated as these studies also differed by surveying women, instead of testing them directly. In other words, the researchers asked the women to remember their experiences throughout life, rather than having them have sex and report back to the researchers right away. The results of the two studies known varied greatly. One study reported only "a handful" of women experienced ejaculations, while another study showed 39.5% experienced the same. The exact words used in questioning the women may account for the differences. Yet another survey found about 40% of women said 'yes' when a release (as opposed to a spurt) of fluid at orgasm was the criteria.


What is it and where does it come from?

There is also controversy regarding the anatomical structures and the type of fluid that is expelled. Some investigators believe that the fluid originates from structures called the Skene's glands, which exits through the urethra (where urine comes out). Still others believe that the fluid comes from the bladder, and is, in fact urine. An alternate term is orgastic urination. Essentially, this is stress urinary incontinence due to orgasm.

On the other hand, some believe that the fluid is vaginal in origin. It is theorized when the vagina becomes narrowed from engorgement with blood during sexual excitement and then spasms due to orgasm, that this creates enough pressure to eject vaginal fluid.

What does it all mean?

Few women experience a phenomenon that closely resembles male ejaculation, although many report some kind of fluid release. What it is and where it comes from and why (or even if) women do it is still uncertain. If you think you experience it, you are not abnormal. And if you don't, you are not abnormal, either!

Kegal Exercise for achieving long lasting and multiple orgasm

The way you can make your pelvic floor muscles stronger and more toned is by doing special exercises called kegels. Kegel exercises strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which support the uterus, bladder and bowel. If you do Kegel exercises regularly and keep your pelvic floor muscles toned you can chieve stronger erections and gain control over ejaculation. Kegel exercises mainly practicing to prevent or control urinary incontinence and prepare for childbirth.


The male and female sexual response cycles are strikingly similar. The primary difference between the two is male ejaculation. Multi-orgasmic women are able to have successive orgasms if stimulation is resumed shortly after the first orgasm because they do not ejaculate. Most men have always accepted orgasm and ejaculation as one in the same because they happen in such rapid succession, orgasm beginning slightly before ejaculation then tapering off during ejaculation. To navigating the path to multiple orgasm is gaining the ability to separate orgasm and ejaculation. The ability to separate these events involves the pubococcygeal muscle, or pelvic floor muscle, or "PC muscle" as it’s more commonly known. You may know this muscle for its ability to stop the flow of urine in mid-stream. If stopping the flow is difficult, you have a weak PC muscle. If this is the case you will need to work on strengthening the PC muscle before you'll be able to have multiple orgasms. If you squeeze or contract the PC muscle you should feel like everything deep in your pelvis is being drawn upward. 

How to do Kegel exercises

The easiest way to identify the pelvic muscles in men and women is to stop the flow of urine midstream. When you do this you are contracting your pelvic floor muscles. When you then restart the flow of urine you are releasing the pelvic floor muscles. It takes diligence to identify your pelvic floor muscles and learn how to contract and relax them. To make sure you know how to contract your pelvic floor muscles, try to stop the flow of urine while you're going to the bathroom. If you succeed, you've got the basic move. Or try another technique: Insert a finger inside your vagina and try to squeeze the surrounding muscles. You should be able to feel your vagina tighten and your pelvic floor move upward. Then relax your muscles and feel your pelvic floor move down to the starting position. As your muscles become stronger and you become more experienced with the exercises this movement will be more pronounced.

But don't make a habit of starting and stopping your urine stream. Doing Kegel exercises with a full bladder or while emptying your bladder can actually weaken the muscles. It can also lead to incomplete emptying of the bladder, which increases your risk of a urinary tract infection.

If you're having trouble finding the right muscles, don't be embarrassed to ask for help. Your doctor or other health care provider can give you important feedback so that you learn to isolate and exercise the correct muscles.

Once you've identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and sit or lie down. Then Contract your pelvic floor muscles. Hold the contraction for three seconds then relax for three seconds. Repeat 10 times.  You can repeat this exercise 3 times a day in a set every time you do a routine task, such as checking e-mail or commuting to work. 

To get the maximum benefit, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles or isolating your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Also, try not to hold your breath. Just relax, breathe freely and focus on tightening the muscles around your vagina and rectum.

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Female Ejaculation - Sex Advice

Female Ejaculation - Sex Advice

Some women ejaculate when they experience an orgasm particularly with G-spot stimulation, though some ejaculate with clitoral stimulation alone.. It happens because the Skene’s glands are "milked" when you stimulate the G-spot (evidence to support the theory that, at least for some women, the glands are the reason for the g spot. Another explanation for the small number of women who ejaculate is that women are sexually aroused in so many different ways that only a small portion of them stimulate the glandular area that induces it.

There is a lot of talk about this subject usually described as "squirting" in forums. Women and men share a variety of views: loving it, trying to do it, and even wanting nothing to do with it. Most suggest experimenting by yourself first when your inhibitions are likely to be lower, thus avoiding potential embarrassment, and to answer any concern about it being urine. If you aren’t sure, use a white towel or tissue to catch the fluid so you can examine it. Sometimes it shoots out; sometimes it trickles or runs out of the vagina. It can be just a few drips or up to a of cup of liquid.

The fluid is released from the glands surrounding urethra opening. The actual composition seems to be a small amount of a chemically altered form of urine mixed with the glandular fluid, which is very similar to the liquid released when a man’s prostate is stimulated during sex. It doesn’t smell like urine, nor does it stain like urine.
It is possible, although very unlikely, for women to urinate during intercourse especially if the muscles have been weakened following childbirth weakening the pelvic floor muscles, Kegal exercise can help restore this muscle strength..

Women are lucky they poccess the ability to orgasm from many different arousal techniques and its only natural that they would enjoy some methods more than others. Work with your own individual sexual identity.

If you don't ejaculate do not strive for it to the exclusion of other sexual pleasure after all if you only ejaculate a small amount it may be unnoticable amongst your normal lubrication.