How to Protect your Sexual Health - Safe Sex Tips

It is the primary and important that you have to make sure you are taking all the precautions to avoid picking up an STI when you are having sex with a different partner. Most STIs are curable with treatment but for those that are not curable, if left untreated, they can cause serious health problems which can, in extreme cases, lead to death.

Always use a Condom while you are having sex to protect against STIs. Condom should be used when having vaginal, anal and oral sex to prevent any STIs being passed from partner to partner. Other forms of contraception will protect against pregnancy. Condoms cover the penis during sexual activity. They are most frequently made of latex, and can also be made out of synthetic materials including polyurethane.

Use a condom, also known as the ABC strategy is a sex education policy based on harm reduction and safe sex and birth control methods. Abstinence - only sex education is strictly to promote the sexual abstinence until marriage, and does not teach about safe sex or contraceptives.

Condoms are made from thin latex usually, but should you be allergic to latex then you can get condoms made from polyurethane or polyisoprene instead. If you are using lubrication when having sex with a latex condom then make sure the lube is a water-based lube as other lubrication and oils break down the latex in the condom preventing it from protecting you. Always use condoms with the CE mark on them as this means they have met safety standards.

Use of Female Condoms

Use of Female condoms are inserted into the vagina prior to intercourse. Female condoms are made of two flexible polyurethane rings and a loose-fitting polyurethane sheath. According to studies, female condoms are effective in preventing the leakage of body fluids and therefore the transmission of STIs and HIV. Several studies show that between 50% and 73% of women who have used this type of condoms during intercourse find them as or more comfortable than male condoms. On the other hand, acceptability of these condoms among the male population is somewhat less, at approximately 40%. Because the cost of female condoms is higher than male condoms, there have been studies carried out with the aim of detecting whether they can be reused. Research has shown that structural integrity of polyurethane female condoms is not damaged during up to five uses if it is disinfected with water and household bleach. However, regardless of this study, specialists still recommend that female condoms are used only once and then discarded.

Other Sexual Health Protection Techniques

STIs are passed through bodily fluids as well as skin to skin contact. These bodily fluids can be semen, vaginal fluids and blood. To avoid any of these bodily fluids entering your system it’s important to use other methods as well as condoms. Cling film (plastic wrap) and latex gloves are good for this.
When a man is performing oral sex on a woman, he may have small cuts in his mouth. Should any bodily fluids get into these small cuts, he could become infected so by placing cling film over the vagina, this will prevent any fluids passing from person to person. Always use a new piece each time.

Use of Dental Dam

A dental dam is a sheet of latex used for protection when engaging in oral sex. It is typically used as a barrier between the mouth and the vulva during cunnilingus or between the mouth and the anus during anal–oral sex.

Use of Latex Gloves

When you are using your hands to penetrate your partner, using latex gloves will protect you as they will block any bodily fluids and stop them from becoming transferred. Again, always remember to use new gloves each time you penetrate your partner. Medical gloves made out of latex, vinyl, nitrile, or polyurethane may be used as a makeshift dental dam during oral sex, or to protect the hands during sexual stimulation, such as masturbation. Hands may have invisible cuts on them that may admit pathogens or contaminate the other body part or partner.

Use of Sexy Toys

Another way to protect against pathogen transmission is the use of protected or properly cleaned dildos and other sex toys. If a sex toy is to be used in more than one orifice or partner, a condom can be used over it and changed when the toy is moved.

STI Screenings Methods

Make sure that you have regular STI tests, especially when you’ve changed sexual partners, to ensure that you haven’t contracted any STIs. If you have contracted and STI then having regular tests will ensure that you catch the STI before it comes a serious health risk. The sooner you discover an STI then the sooner you can begin treatment for it. Each STI comes with a different treatment and your GP will advise you on how to proceed. To get tested for an STI you can either visit your GP, your local GUM clinic or a sexual health clinic. Immunization against various viral infections that can be transmitted sexually.

The most common vaccines are HPV vaccine, which protects against the most common types of human papillomavirus that cause cervical cancer, and the Hepatitis B vaccine. Immunization before initiation of sexual activity increases effectiveness.

Sexting Pros and Cons

Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photographs, primarily between mobile phones. The term was first popularized in early 21st century, and is a portmanteau of sex and texting, where the latter is meant in the wide sense of sending a text possibly with images.

A social danger with sexting is that material can be very easily and widely propagated, over which the originator has no control.

According to a survey Males and females are equally as likely to text nude images of themselves. Sexting without forethought is like sex without foreplay — not likely to result in mutual satisfaction. Heed these sexting tips before you hit “send.”

As a general rule, men are more aroused by images, while women are more turned on by words.

The following Tips help you to master the art of SEXTING.

Step 1: Understand the risks

Understand the risks of sending sexually explicit text messages or photos via cellphone, aka “sexting.” Once you hit “send,” your message is out there for good, with no guarantee it will remain between you and the recipient. So weigh the pros and cons carefully before you engage in this mode of communication.

Step 2: Don't have premature sext

Consider your relationship with the intended recipient and whether sexting would be appropriate — and legal. If you’re not already sexually intimate, instigating via cellphone can be risky.

Step 3: Know the recipient

Know the recipient’s tastes and tendencies. Would they welcome a sext from you? How racy are they? Keep in mind that, as with any communication that doesn’t include face-to-face interaction, messages can be misconstrued.

Step 4: Don't drink and sext

Need we say it? Don’t sext when your inhibitions are lowered by alcohol, fatigue, heartbreak, or anything else. Always sext with a clear head and heart.

Step 5: Err on the side of subtlety

Err on the side of subtlety. You can always get more graphic if your sexts are well received; you’ll have a harder time recovering from sending a message the receiver finds offensive. Now that you know the ground rules, go and have good sext!

Master the Art of Sexting

The Art of Oral Sex for pleasing a Women

The Art of Oral Sex for pleasing a Women

I recently received a phone call from a young man who had come to see me about a month ago to learn how to pleasure women. He was frustrated trying to give his girlfriend an orgasm this way with no success, and he thought that maybe she just did not like oral loving.

“How can it be possible?” he asked me in disbelief during the session.

There could be several reasons. Just to mention a few:

She might have felt ashamed of it as many women do when they grow up, believing that their sex center is “dirty.”

Perhaps the first man who did oral on her might have stimulated her clitoris too soon and too hard, and it might have been rather painful to her.

I remember seeing his eyes widen at my answer, so I asked him about his approach, and from his description I understood why she did not like it.

Immediately he asked me if I could teach him how to give oral pleasure to a woman.

I explained that the tiny clitoris has thousands of nerve endings, and that it should be approached gently and slowly at first, otherwise the sensation gets too intense, and can even become painful. Some women want other parts of their yoni stimulated first, before going to the clitoris.



The best approach begins with taking time to connect with her first by looking into her eyes, and then synchronizing your breath with her. By doing that, you can penetrate her soul, and go places with her you might not have reached before.

Once you have connected with her through the eye and the breath, move your attention to her body. Start breathing on the yoni before you move on to touching it with your tongue, softly at first.

Keep monitoring her facial expression and her body reaction to your approach. You can also ask about her experience, if you are not sure what her facial expression wants to tell you.

Most women like to be brought to a place of wanting more instead having to pull back because it’s too intense. When the yoni opens up more, then you can increase the firmness gradually.

The more attention you pay to your lover’s expression and adjust your giving accordingly, the more you can heighten her pleasure and your enjoyment in riding the waves of ecstasy with her.

Now, calling me a month later, this young man proudly announced that his girlfriend reaches several orgasms when he gives her oral attention. He told me that his highest pleasure was to see her in ecstasy, and he was so grateful for the teaching he had received from me.

Female Anal Sex and Orgasms

Female Anal Sex and Orgasms

Women who engage in anal stimulation describe the orgasms as being the "deepest" orgasm they've ever felt! Some women even describe anal orgasms as being even deeper and more powerful than vaginal orgasms! Even if you have no interest in Anal sex, it’s important to learn about and understand because many women love anal sex but won’t initiate it, and many women who think they don’t like it learn to love it once they open up and try it. There are some serious safety issues regarding anal sex that you need to be aware of at all times. First and foremost, whatever touches the anus shouldn't be touching anything else. Never never never take the penis out of the anus and put it into the vagina. That can lead to serious infections and other complications. After any kind of anal play, you should immediately change condoms and wash the relevant body parts thoroughly.  One of the most important thing to remember when thinking about anal sex is that, unlike the vagina, the anus isn't self-lubricating: you gotta bring your own grease.  And, the more lube you use, the better. It will make the initial penetration much more easy and less painful for the woman and make the whole experience, for both of you, much more pleasant. The most common suggestion we get from our readers is to use LOTS of lube; we just can't emphasize this point enough. All kinds of lube are used for anal sex, from spit to Vaseline to high-tech silicone-based lubes.   Simply put, a penis is an awful big to be the first thing you stick up someone's butt . Better to start with something smaller and work your way up. Fingers are an excellent beginning point. Use one finger, then two, to initiate your partner into the mysteries of anal penetration. Try it while performing oral sex for an extra thrill. Be sure your fingernails are trimmed, not to forget the lube, and you might even want to wear latex gloves.  As your partner gets used to your fingers, you might graduate to a butt plug or a small dildo. Dildos are available in all shapes and sizes. Go shopping together to get one she thinks she can handle. Remember, though, don't put the dildo into the vagina after putting it into the anus. The safest way is to put a condom on the dildo before using it, and to wash it thoroughly immediately after.  Before having anal sex, the woman should have a good, complete bowel movement. If she doesn't, the man may find himself encountering far more fecal matter than he might have liked (i.e. packing the fudge). Now, for some people doing this on-command might not be the easiest thing, and straining to defecate is not healthy. A high fiber diet may help things along and is good for your health in any case. Of course, STDs are also a major concern with anal sex. This isn't just limited to AIDS; herpes, genital warts, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. can all be transmitted through anal sex. You shouldn't be having anal sex without a condom; it's not worth the risk to either partner.

 

How to Take Charge in Bed

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Safety Tips for First Date

When you are meeting up with someone new for dating it is your duty that you put your safety first. First of all make sure you tell a close friend or family member where you are going on the date and try to give them a time that you will be back for. If the person you are meeting happens to be a friend already then the rules probably do not apply but on most occasions the person will be a stranger and you will not know much about them.

Don’t dress too provocatively. Obviously you want to impress on a first date so that a second date will follow but this does not mean you have to wear a mini skirt and be flashing your cleavage. Guys often prefer the casual look because you seem more laid back and at ease with yourself but also looking trashy may give the impression that you are up for something when you are not.

On a first date go to a public place such as the cinema, bowling, restaurant or a bar because if anything unexpected happens or you are getting bad vibes from a date there are people around to help you.
If you really just have to sleep with someone on the first date, go back to yours instead of theirs. At least at your home you are familiar with your surroundings and will have neighbours nearby if you find yourself in danger.

Set up a ‘get me out of this date now’ code with a friend. If the date is not going to plan or there is something just not quite right about the person you are with, nip to the toilet and message your friend.

Dates are meant to be fun but they will be more fun if you know you are safe and can relax.